Drug Addiction « Thread Started on Dec 26, 2007, 8:06pm »
My son has been addicted to heroine. He went to rehab over a year ago. He has used many different drugs and always lies and steals. In late Sept. he overdosed on methadone. Five weeks later he overdosed on heroine. He refuses to go back to rehab. Since he started using drugs when he was a teenager, he has never really grown up. He has a job - but doesn't always go (I'm surprised he hasn't been fired. He stays out all night - with no regard for our rules. We have thrown him out at least 10 times, and always take him back because he is homeless unless we do.
We are about to throw him out once again. I'm afraid he is going to overdose again and die, but the stealing and lying continue to this day. He claims he hasn't used drugs since the last overdose, but I know he smokes pot and drinks. Is throwing him out the only answer.
He says he doesn't fit in with our family (he has 3 siblings who don't speak to him because of previous stealing). But he's the one who doesn't try to fit in. It think he's ashamed of his past behavior, but no enough to change. Is it too late for him? He's 23 years old.
Re: Drug Addiction « Reply #1 on Jan 8, 2008, 7:42pm »
Sadly the only way your son will get help and get clean is if he wants to himself, My advise would be not to enable him in your presence. Have deffinate rules no drugs in your house or he dosent enter your house you have to put your health and the other family members first. Never give up hope but only offer possitive help eg to get into rehab Detox etc never give money or possessions that can be sold or traded for drugs. We can still love someone but not like their behaivior he has made the choice to be an addict you have not done that for him, Love him and always be there to help but stay separated from the drug use. I wish you well its a bloody hard road I lost my son 8 years ago but I also know many many more who have made their way out the other side. cyber hugs and be nice to yourself accasionally
Re: Drug Addiction « Reply #2 on Feb 23, 2008, 5:37pm »
Keep your head up. I grew up in a home with a mother addicted to benzos and a whole heap of mental illnesses attached to it. She got through it. then 2 and a half years ago my brother was diagnosed with drug induce psychosis. he has been clean since then and is even off the anti-psychotic medication. He used to steal things and sell things too and my parents kicked him out alot and also took him back. I think it is hard for people with substance abuse issues to actually talk about their problems and more often then not you'll probably find that whatever was going on for them at the time when they started is what has kept them there. Perhaps you should look back to that point in time. Everyone needs someone so having a really good support network is important. Most ex-addicts look back and see that they have lost their friends and have become lonely as a result of recovering. a con which sometimes out weighs the pro. my advice is dont give up on him and dont let him give up on himself. he can only really get help if he wants it. maybe making the condition of him living at home is that he doesnt necessarily have to stop drugs, because he wont anyway and will just hate you for telling him to but rather that he sees a counsellor every week. no rehab or detox if hes not ready but just so he has someone to talk to about the stuff he's probably had bottled up for so many years. that usually helps. Best of luck and never lose hope
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