sugarpie
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|  | Re: just looking for some experienced advice
« Result #2 on Oct 22, 2009, 1:32pm » | ![[Quote]](http://s4.images.proboards.com/buttons/quote.gif) |
ok. well. I have a support system i can't use. maybe it's the same for you. ie: your mother would try to help if A) she knew how B) she knew at all and C)because she loves you.
now I am sure letter C is right. if she is worried about you, it means she loves you. and the reason you don't have her support is because you won't let her, you are too afraid of hurting her again, of hurting your family again and too afraid of not being able to stop. On the other hand it could just be that the reason you have not looked to your family for support is because you are too afraid of hurting yourself again, of facing and conquering the denial that you have grown to accept. my advice is as follows....and this comes from someone who thought her parents never loved her, never cared, and was proven wrong. A) face yourself first. ask what is more important to you in life: drugs, or family. yes drugs make everything better for the short term, but in the long term it is soooo much more worth it to hang in there and fight. B) TALK to someone who you know cares. doesn't have to be family. but does have to be someone not involved in the same drugs or environment as you. and yes, there is always someone who cares, as much as you try and kid yourself that there isn't. C) two things: 1: if you really cant talk to anyone who you think cares, then talk to someone who cares about the people that you care about. 2: once you have have done that. then you are on your way baby! get into a rehab program or just ask your family and friends to monitor you and prevent you from doing things that are destructive. get grounded if you have to. sometimes solitude is good for the soul. talk out any issues you have. not blaming anyone. this is your excuse time. you can say what you like until you feel better again. because people are more willing to forgive you than you could ever imagine. most of the people that care about you want you to be happy. do just be selfish and do what ever it takes to be truly happy for the long term. think in the big picture.
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